Drama

     I have said it a million times, and I will say it again, I am very lucky that Jared is the father of my children, and that we are both laid back and calm people who don't need drama to thrive. That we are able to work things out like rational adults and know what is in the best interest of the kids. Unlike other people I know.
     I'm not naming names, but I know one overly dramatic person who needs to be put in her place. You know one thing that drives me crazy is when women claim to be single moms when they are still solely supported by their ex. I think that is an insult to all the true single mothers I know who work their butts off, get no child support, and have an ex who doesn't want anything to do with the kids. I am sorry, but if you don't have to work because the child support you get is over 50% of the guys check, and he still wants to spend time with the kids, or takes them on days you need a break, or just because you want to run around, then you don't get to say you are a single mom because that is not doing it on your own to me. I would never ever claim I was a single mom because Jared is amazing and would take the kids whenever I needed him to and would also continue to support them.
     Which brings me to rant number two, child support is just that. CHILD support. It is to be used for the children's benefit. Which means, you shouldn't be spending it on your cigarette habit or your own clothes. You shouldn't have to then call the father up and say, this child needs this or this, because when you are getting over $1400 a month, they should have that. Especially when you just received half of a persons retirement which was over 12 grand and somehow managed to blow that in a month with nothing to show for it.
      I detest manipulative people. Those poor, pitiful me people who like to try and convince others they are the ones being wronged all the time. Sorry, while you may have others convinced, I see you for who you really are. If every guy you have ever been with calls you crazy, maybe it's not them, maybe it really is you. When you cry that you are doing it all on your own and that your ex doesn't help out, and has never been there. Not true when he is off working to provide for you and your kids because you are too lazy to keep a job. Because you somehow have a special way of blowing massive amounts of money. When you claim that he has done you wrong and cheated on you a thousand times (which is not true by the way, he made one mistake and owns up to it) but you fail to mention how many times you cheated on him far before he ever did it to you. And after. Over and over. That you have been with more guys than you can count, and you even managed to get Herpes that he somehow doesn't have. So who was the nasty, unfaithful one? But no you manage to leave that part out because then maybe so many people wouldn't have sympathy for you. You leave out all the people you had in and out of the home he was paying for and all the people you let sponge off of him.
      I also hate women who like to play off what good moms they are to the public and on social media, but no one can see how they really are when no one is around. Or the things I think are awful and disgusting and you don't even try and hide. Like how nasty your house is. How when you walk in it smells like animal waste because of all the creatures who live in the house. How if you are a "stay-at-home" mom that maybe your house would be cluttered and lived it, but it wouldn't be filth because you should have the time to clean it. Especially when other people occasionally keep your kids for you. Must be nice. That you move strange men in at times who have records and are drug users and also allow this man to be alone with your children at times. That you spend the money that should be going to them on him because you think this man loves you when everyone else can see he was only using you for your money all the while going around telling people he would never be in a relationship with you because you are too crazy for him. And oh imagine that, the money ran out, and he left. Who could have seen that coming? That you let your youngest child who should be in bed by 8 pm like every other child their age stay up way past midnight, because you want to sleep in until noon the next day. I am not a morning person, and would love to sleep in, but that is lazy parenting. That you give that child her way all the time, because you don't want to parent or deal with her fits if you don"t give in. You are setting her up for failure later in life. It saddens me. When your oldest child tells me she would rather stay in her room all day and watch tv than be around you and has already begged me to let her live here, and that she would even sleep on the couch if I would let her. It hurts my heart.
     Then there is the issue of custody. When there are court orders in place saying you have joint custody, but you won"t give the father his overnight visitation that he deserves. He loves those children, and sadly there is nothing preventing a woman from doing this, but better believe he didn't pay his child support and he would be in jail. That you will run around telling people how sorry he is and what an awful dad he is, when that couldn't be further from the truth. Yes he was gone from their lives a lot, but he was working hard and providing for them, while you blew it all away on people who didn't really care and were using you because you are weak and gullible. Where are these people now? Long gone.That the reason he took that job in the first place is because you got him fired from a job that would have kept him home, and then demanded he find something else or you were leaving. Not once did you get off your butt to try and find something so he could stay. That he always gives in and gives you your way, or you will withhold the children from him after you throw your toddler like tantrum. Well not anymore. Things are about to change, because I will not sit back and watch someone I love being mistreated because he is too good and nice a person to let that happen to. That sadly everyone we know warned me about how awful he was because of the things you made up. Not true, he is amazing and treats me like a princess. And is willing to stay here with me because I don't demand a lifestyle he can't afford. That I am happy just to have him and don't care about material possessions. That I see him for the wonderful man and father he is and and am having to build him back up and tell him he is worthy because you are the one who broke him. That he is learning that he can trust someone because women like you give us good loyal women a bad rep. It saddens me that he was a depressed broken shell of a man who didn't deserve the way you always treated him.
     Women like this make me sick. But I am a firm believer in karma, and I do believe you will always be unhappy and miserable the rest of your life because to you everyone is always out to get you, and it is never your fault. It is coming for you.